Simply put, gratitude or thankfulness is the practice of saying Thank You! Gratitude is the expression of enthusiasm. Give thanks to everybody for everything. Remember gratitude ranks high on the list of the seven most important positive emotions. Being grateful for what you already have is the sure way of getting more. Remember the creative process: Ask – Believe – Receive!
There are two things to emphasize here. First, you must always “pray” - ask for something or visualize your desire – with the assurance that it has already been granted. Give thanks to the Infinite Intelligence for having accepted your prayer already. As a matter of fact, your prayers are always. The problem often is a confusion about what you pray for. Second, whenever you receive a favor from someone, always make sure you express your profound gratitude. It does not matter how little or big of a favor. It does not matter either if your benefactor is a close parent or a complete stranger. Always say Thank You! Gratitude unlocks the door to opportunities, while the lack of it locks those doors tightly. Gratitude also keeps negative emotions away from you, allowing you to vibrate high and get what you desire faster. Develop the habit of writing thank you notes, thank you emails, or thank you texts, if you do not have a chance to do it orally. Be grateful about your current situation, be it the support of your family, your health, your financial and social status, etc.
Gratitude breeds hope and faith and inspires action. Gratitude is a form of praise. Just like water expands when heated but contracts when frozen, whatever (including people) you praise expands. Praise is not intended for flattering the Infinite Intelligence. Praise raises the vibration of the operator (you), hence takes you closer to the things and conditions you seek. Recall the great Law of Vibration! So, can you write a list of seven things you are grateful for in your life?
Be thankful for what you have; you'll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never, ever have enough." by Oprah Winfrey
There is no blackboard in the sky on which God has written your purpose, your mission in life. There's no blackboard in the sky that says, "Neale Donald Walsch. Handsome guy who lived in the first part of the twenty-first century, who .. ."And then there's a blank. And all I have to do to really understand what I'm doing here, why I'm here, is to find that blackboard and find out what God really has in mind for me. But the blackboard doesn't exist. So your purpose is what you say it is. Your mission is the mission you give yourself your life will be what you create it as, and no one will stand in judgment of it, now or ever."
The purpose of life for humankind is GROWTH! So is yours. Actually, all forms of life are under the same urge. Just look around you. Look at plants and the lower animals. You place a seed in the soil for example, water it, give it the appropriate nutrients and allow it to get the required amount of sunlight. The seed inexorably sprouts and grows into a plant (and later a tree, as may apply). You are under the same urge. You must grow constantly. Because you are a three-fold being, you must maintain a perfect balance between your spiritual, mental and physical dimensions.
The essential condition for growth is to constantly get more. On the physical plane, for instance, growth requires the construction of more cells, which takes food, water and air as inputs. In general terms, getting more requires giving more. This principle is known as the Law of Service. For example, to grow your muscles, you must exercise. To get richer and wealthier as a financier, you must invest more of your money in the first place. To develop your intuition or your power of concentration, you must spend more time studying spiritual volumes and meditating. To get A’s in school, you must study hard and smart.
What happens when life on the physical plane is over? The life principle in you can never “die”. It is Energy by essence, which can only be transmuted into other forms of energy. The life principle in them lives on in finer realms characterized by higher energy – this is going “from glory to glory”.
Create a life purpose for yourself which serves as a framework from which stem all your missions and goals. You can also term this your vision. Develop the right viewpoint of the world. Understand that though things might sound chaotic, the world is always “perfect” at any point in time. It perfectly reflects the state of the collective consciousness. When the world as a whole banishes such things as wars, conflicts, lust, vice, poverty, etc. from the collective consciousness, those things will cease to exist. Do not let the apparent chaos in the system disturb you. Focus your attention on the good and the beauty which abounds everywhere around you. Focus on improving yourself in all areas. Focus on becoming an ever growing human being! Your mission is to improve yourself. Do not go around telling people they have to change. Change yourself, and people will emulate you. But always lend a helping hand to anyone who seeks assistance from you. So, what is your mission in life?
Every night, (and sometimes during the day), when alone, I would start on my journeys - see new places, cities and countries; live there, meet people and make friendships and acquaintances and, however unbelievable, it is a fact that they were just as dear to me as those in actual life, and not a bit less intense in their manifestations.” by Nikola Tesla
A successful life is a compilation of successful months, days, minutes, and seconds, which, in the end, translates simply into a compilation of successful tasks. Your end goal is Happiness, which generally is defined as: Health, Wealth and Love, in that order. You need to maintain a balanced life between the spiritual, mental and physical realms of your being. The main departments of your life to create success metrics in are: health and wellness, personal growth, family, money, career, relationships, and spirituality.
As great material comfort is quite important and legitimate, because you live in a material body. We need to be as much at ease at we desire in order to express our being and potential fully.
Focus on the journey, rather than the achievement. Money is very important in our modern society. However, you should desire money for the sake of it. Desire to accumulate money for its purpose: a means of transaction. No matter how much of it you desire to possess, keep money in its right place. Always remember money is a good servant but a very poor master. So, what is your definition of success?
Success is something you attract by the person you become." by Jim Rohn
Individual Responsibility defined
Individual Responsibility is the concept that as individuals (men and women alike), we are the creators/authors of our realities/circumstances in life – our own Destiny. Truth be told, we do NOT begin to wield control over our life until we have sincerely accepted that we are responsible of the experiences we meet in our life. Be it at home, at school, on the workplace, in the street, …, anywhere! On the marvelous SUCCESS journey, Individual Responsibility is one sour pill everyone traveler very much struggles with, but has to swallow right at the port of origin (before boarding the vessel). Once we embrace it, our life can literally change overnight. We begin to see things in a new and bright light. That is, our perspective changes and causes our attitude to change for the better!
Scapegoats are ubiquitous
Popular scapegoats are God (or any concept we hold of a Higher Being), our parents, our partners in marriage and business, the government, our boss, our teachers, mother nature, etc. As a great teacher put it more than two thousand years ago, “And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but perceivest not the beam that is in thine own eye?”. This is the parable of the mote and the beam in Luke 6:41 KJV. What a simple yet very powerful lesson! Though in apostolic language, the lesson is still quite relevant to our everyday modern life, no matter what our particular circumstances happen to be.
Exceptions to the rule
Of course, there are things we do not control directly, such as the course of the sun, the succession of day and night, the tide of the ocean, the rhythm of the seasons, etc. The Great Architect chose to withdraw those things from the action domain of our individual Will, for the good of the greater whole.
Likewise, it seems inconceivable to hold immature beings responsible of what happens to them. By this we mean babies (or kids in general) until they reach the age of reason. During that early period of life, they depend mostly on their close circles (parents, school, etc.), to do their thinking for them.
The good news is, we need not worry about things we cannot control. Instead, we should worry about the numerous “little” things we can control but have been trained to ignore. There are many aspects of our individual lives, over which we have full control. Indeed, everybody has the power to choose: Willpower. As a matter of fact, a lot of great minds think this is our most valuable god-given power as human beings; this is what sets humankind above the lower animals! We can choose what to think, how to feel, what to focus our attention on, what to eat, what to wear, who to love, where to live, where to go to school, what to major in, what car to drive, what songs to listen to, what shows to watch, our favorite colors, etc.
Individual Responsibility is NOT taking the Blame!
Now, we hear you say, “What! You mean to say that guy who came from nowhere and knocked me over in the street a year ago, I attracted him?”. Without meaning to be rude, the answer is YES, you did attract that “ugly” guy. The same way you attracted that handsome gentleman or that pretty lady who gave you the most magnificent smile at the coffee shop the other day! No finger pointing here. Individual Responsibility has nothing to do with blaming ourselves. The same way blaming other people for what happens to us, it is also counter-productive to blame ourselves for the undesirable circumstances in our life. We should not waste time trying to find when we planted that particular seed (thought) in the past (near of far) which sprouted and grew into that unpleasant experience. In our experience, this is a place many people get hung up, especially when considering concepts of blame and childhood illnesses or tragedies.
A glimpse on the science behind Individual Responsibility
Our physical environment is but a mere reflection of our inner world – our world of power! “Thy will be done, as in heaven, so in earth” (Luke 11:2, KJV). We never get what we want in life. Instead, we always get what we are. “Be the change that you wish to see in the world”, ipse dixit Mahatma Gandhi.
Individual Responsibility also has a very practical aspect to it. It is easier to change ourselves than trying to change the whole world around us. And the beauty in doing this is, as we change, our world eventually changes to fit our new awareness.
So, how does it really work? Our thoughts manifest into reality. This is The Law of Attraction, which states that “Like attracts like”. The Law of Attraction is an application of the greater Law of Vibration. Simply put, EVERYTHING in the universe vibrates. Everything is in perpetual motion. Also, everything in the universe, from the tiniest microbe to the most gigantic star, is made of the same building block: energy – also referred to as God, Allah, Jehovah, etc. We attract into our life those things that have the same frequency as our predominant mental attitude. There are other important laws governing the universe. For the curious minds, it is worth checking out “Working With The Law”, by Raymond Holliwell.
Accepting Individual Responsibility marks an essential delineation between childhood and adulthood. This is actually about mental and spiritual maturity. We are not true grown-ups until we cease to seek scapegoats everywhere and in all circumstances, be it in our finances; our love, sex and romance lives; our family lives; our health; our neighborhood; our business; and you name it.
How to accept personal responsibility?
It is also important to practice Forgiveness frequently. The true meaning of forgiveness is to let go of (wrong) things completely, to abandon them. We need to let go of the past, our slight misdeeds in order to be able to focus on important tasks. Forgiveness means choosing to look forward rather than backward. Forgiveness frees us of the nasty feelings of guilt and resentment, thereby allowing us to stay on course for SUCCESS. Truth is, we will fall once in awhile. That is okay because we are humans after all. But it is not okay to lay flat on the ground forever. Chapter 9 of Holliwell’s “Working with the Law” concludes with a beautiful poem on forgiveness that is worth checking out.
Invectus (poem written in 1875 by William Ernest Henley)
Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.
In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.
Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds, and shall find me, unafraid.
It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.
Accepting Individual Responsibility takes us from the passenger seat of our life and places us right into the driver seat. We are in control. Our Exceptional SUCCESS journey begins when we accept Individual Responsibility!
To your Exceptional SUCCESS!